"Onerous home work "
“I am just a house wife” . These words you would have heard
many times from women who do not have income earning activities. Such status is
understood as unemployment status. When they utter these words they look as
though they have an inner feeling that, they are not as powerful or as productive
as the working women. Is it true? Let us analyse the truth behind it.
Generally mothers perform
seven responsibilities for the welfare of their families. These tasks are
performed by Indian mothers without active cooperation of the male members of
the family since; it is an accepted norm in the Indian culture. Hence, they are
over burdened with these services without any rest, or holidays or retirement. Nevertheless,
they render them with love, devotion and total dedication for the sake of
welfare and happiness of their family members.
We may split those responsibilities into, bearing and rearing of children , management
of food preparation for the family all through the day, house hold work , health
issues, elder’s and guest’s
requirements and festivals preparations . All
these duties performed throughout their productive years are performed with
perfection or near perfection depending on the mother’s efficiency, their own health
status, the cooperation of the family members and the assistance of service
providers. But they are the CEO of all these home management tasks involving
meticulous planning of time, resources and manpower and hence, are described as
home makers. It is not easy to manage these seven responsibilities as they
look. Take for example, the food management skill, which has to be executed all
through their life time perfectly. The
right quality, quantity, taste and serving food in the right time are to be taken
care in the interest of the family member’s health. It is a lifelong duty of
mothers without any holiday or retirement. How many mother’ service in this
matter is recognised or appreciated is a big question because, mothers are
generally taken for granted. Imagine the chaos in a family if a mother is
bedridden for a week. Only then, the family will learn not to take mothers for
granted and under estimate the magnitude of the food management task. Mothers can be called “super managers for this
task alone.
Same is the task of
health and elder’s management since various sub tasks come under it. There are
additional duties too if, a mother opts to teach her children without tuitions,
opts to drive her car without driver and undertake financial management also. What
about festival managements and guests management? Each responsibility related
to home management are to be executed
with perfection .Single mothers have to
compensate for the absence of father figure
and have to be in charge of crises management too. Working mothers have to struggle a lot in
balancing the professional and home front tasks since, one can not suffer at
the expense of the other. They need
extra ordinary time management skill.
All these responsibilities take a toll on women’s health due
to various reasons. Early rising and late to bed resulting in
inadequate sleep, late food or hurried food resulting in their digestive
disorders and lack of resting time resulting in their extreme tiredness and low
productivity. They
are in the habit of trying home remedies first when they fall sick and report
late to the doctors resulting in medical complications. Indian mothers generally
are reluctant to involve men in household work and voluntarily bear all the
responsibilities. Majority of mothers, do not even measure the amount of work
they do for the welfare of the family. That is the reason the unemployed
mothers say that, “we are just house wives” because their services are not
measured in terms of money.
The position of mothers during the current pandemic situation
is indescribable. In a situation when all the members of the family stay in for
the whole day, the work burden for the mothers
have doubled due to the constant need to full fill the demand of the family
members regarding food all through the day and that when domestic assistants
are stopped due to fear of spread of Corona virus. That means additional labor
work for mothers. Division of work by family members does not prevail in many
families. Hence the mothers are robbed of their one or two hours of leisure
time or “I time enjoyed hitherto by them.
Hence, all the mothers working or non working are all “super
CEOs” of home front. Most of the mothers
consider the love, concern and care their children bestow on them is more valuable
than awards given in the name of “women achievers” awards
Hence,
let them not say again that they are” just a house wives” but say with self
confidence and pride that, they are “home management executives.”